Thank you. To learn more, visit, Compassion: Another “C” that Defines Our Humanity – continued. Stepping up protect, provide and motivate ourselves. The login page will open in a new tab. To be continued, Adapted from Matthew Fox, Passion for Creation: Meister Eckhart’s Earth-Honoring Spirituality, “Be you compassionate as your Creator in Heaven is compassionate,” pp. Finally, they discuss the most common blocks to self-assertive compassion and the necessity of taking occasional “self-compassion breaks” to cultivate a better relationship within. Share the story. But when the yang side of self-compassion is presented such as taking actions to protect, provide and motivate, they see the yang side of compassion which is more active and more stereo-typically masculine. Tami and Sah also discuss: the importance of reclaiming beauty, playfulness, and lightheartedness on the spiritual path; what it means to be a “joy activist”; Sah’s journey to becoming a spiritual teacher; the innate goodness within each one of us; forgiving the past; the evolution of Indian teachings in the West; the “spiritually sassy” glossary of terms; and much more. A lot of these ideas come from Chris Germer—my close colleague, who developed the Mindful Self-Compassion program with me—and the things we have been talking about for a long time. It is important to recognize that there are two sides to compassion: Call it the Yin side and the Yang side, the feminine side and the masculine side. The program, co‑created with her colleague Chris Germer, has been taken by tens of thousands of people worldwide. Do it better next time.” It doesn’t say what to do differently or how to do it differently. Read reviews from world’s largest community for readers. Yin compassion is like a mother tenderly comforting her crying child. 12:15-1:45. Meister Eckhart speaks to the two sides of compassion when he says: “Compassion is where peace and justice kiss.”  Peace is the yin; justice is the yang. Everything has a yin and yang; opposing polarities that are, nevertheless, interdependent on each other. 2:00 PM - 5:00 PM. Steven Hayes is a professor, the chair of the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada, and the author of more than 35 books and 500 scientific articles. The Yin and Yang of Detachment and Compassion. So many issues have been raised and overcome with kind, connected men and fierce, empowered women. The Yin (co-being) and Yang (be active in the world) qualities of compassion have a common denominator: caring. Today, he leads a heart-based healing movement rooted in tried-and-true techniques, pioneering a spiritually sassy approach in which joy and authenticity illuminate the spiritual path. It’s natural, but it’s just not very effective, right? “Anger through love becomes fierce compassion,” this is such a different motivator than is shown by counter-demonstrators whose actions, for the most part, display anger, but lack love and compassion. Common humanity kind of sees how things are related to each other. The concept of yin and yang is a perfect metaphor for the energies of self-compassion. The receptive Yin side self-compassion—how to soothe and comfort yourself when you're in pain and rest in loving, connected presence when alone or with those you care about. The good news….finding the right balance of the Yin and Yang of self-compassion can literally change the world! Learn more at self-compassion.org. Do I even know what I need?” When self-compassion is in full bloom while we are providing for our needs, it manifests as fulfilling, balanced authenticity. “Oh, I see. And to give him credit, Chris actually⁠ came up with the idea that the main domains of yang self-compassion are protecting ourselves, providing ourselves with what we need, and motivating ourselves. Indeed, I discovered Eckhart when I was researching for my book on A Spirituality Named Compassion and I was  beginning to despair about how little was written in Christian history about compassion—how much more ink was spilled on “contemplation” than on compassion. A true pioneer in the field, over 15 years ago she first identified self-compassion as a measurable trait, and now there are over 2000 published studies on its benefits. Change Blog by Peter Schulte. With Sounds True, Kristin has created the audio program Self-Compassion Step by Step, which includes clinical evidence of the importance of self-compassion along with techniques and exercises for cultivating this pivotal quality. Listen to Tami Simon's in-depth audio podcast interview with Kristin Neff: So in this case, kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness feels like encouraging, wise vision. The active Yang side self-compassion - how to see the truth of a situation with courage, protect yourself, and stand strong with others in the face of hostility or harm. Then I discovered Eckhart’s amazing commentaries on Luke 6:26 and on the “Our Father” prayer of Jesus and further thrilling teachings on compassion. "Fierce Self-Compassion: Activating the Yin & Yang of Self-Compassion" allows us to turn to the wide spectrum of possibility in Yin and Yang self-compassion, a powerful arsenal of resources including soothing and comforting, caring, protecting, providing and motivating ourselves when things fall apart. By Dr. Kristin Neff. This may really work better for me.” The research we’ve done really backs up that this kind of encouraging, wise voice of compassionate motivation is actually much more effective and more sustainable in motivating ourselves to change. Kristin and Chris recently co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook, an immediate bestseller. Enter your email below. I mean, just like a parent wants that for their child, we want that for ourselves. In addition to her research, she has developed an eight‑week program to teach self‑compassion skills called Mindful Self-Compassion. I believe in you!” Kindness is a very encouraging quality. Please log in again. The Yin and Yang of Self-Compassion The Yin side, she explains, is the more tender side. It gives us the vision to see what we need to change in order to help ourselves. For people who like structure and order, Yang meditation is appealing. Likewise, without compassion all are fearful and do not love.”  He cites the psalmist who says, “The Lord loves compassion and justice.”. She is the author of the book, Widen the Window: Training Your Brain and Body to Thrive During Stress and Recover from Trauma. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon speaks with Kristin about why it’s so difficult for so many people to treat themselves with actual compassion. How does that play out in your soul, your spiritual practice, and your sacred activism? Tami’s Takeaway And there’s a part of you that thinks maybe this will help. In the prophetic tradition “compassion means justice” (Eckhart); and in the mystical tradition compassion means swimming in the fetal waters of togetherness—surely this is why in both Hebrew and Arabic the word for compassion comes from the word for womb. In this podcast, Sah speaks with Sounds True founder Tami Simon about his new book, Spiritually Sassy: 8 Radical Steps to Activate Your Innate Superpowers. To add your comment, please click, Rev. We can’t actually see possibilities because the negative emotion actually has the function, evolutionarily actually, of narrowing our vision. Passion for Creation: The Earth-Honoring Spirituality of Meister EckhartMatthew Fox’s comprehensive translation of Meister Eckhart’s sermons is a meeting of true prophets across centuries, resulting in a spirituality for the new millennium. They are not separate but are conjoined in us all, a yearning for peace and a yearning for justice, with a willingness to work for both. The Yin and Yang of Self-Compassion, Kristin Neff is an associate professor at the University of Texas and the author of Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. In yang self-compassion, we act in the world in order to protect ourselves, provide what we need, and motivate change to reach our full potential. Research suggests that self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of coping and resilience we have available to us. In this episode of Insights of the Edge—which previously aired as part of an interview series on self-acceptance—Tami Simon and Steven discuss his experiences living with a panic disorder at a young age, and how his own bouts with anxiety shaped his clinical studies. The Chicago School of Psychology, 1015 15th St, NW, 4th floor, Washington, DC 20005. Or a voice that’s encouraging, supportive, “You can do it”? . I did this. Individuals who are more self-compassionate tend to have greater happiness, life satisfaction and motivation, better relationships and physical health, and less anxiety and depression. The yin is the dark energy; it’s supposed to be more feminine, more of a passive energy, more the “being with.”. The receptive Yin side self-compassion —how to soothe and comfort yourself when you’re in pain and rest in loving, connected presence when alone or with those you care about. We are empowered by our connection with others. Positive emotions—kindness, safety, warmth—they have the effect of broadening our perspective so that we can have a larger vision so that we can see the possibilities so that we might get an idea of, “Oh, I can try this. Faced with the horrors of the postmodern world, it is necessary to refresh oneself daily with what Kierkegaard calls “infinite inwardness.” It actually comes from the bigger view of interdependence—the causes and conditions that come together to create our suffering. Eckhart has a special gift to offer us when speaking of both sides of compassion, so let us invite him to be our guide for now. What self-criticism tends to do, is it just gives us not very wise information. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. She has been practicing Buddhist meditation since 1997, and has co-created a program on Mindful Self-Compassion with her associate Chris Germer at Harvard University. 113-116.See also: Matthew Fox, A Spirituality Named Compassion.Banner Image: “Water Fire Taiji.” Image by root on 4-designer.com. Most people are familiar with the circle of yin and yang, black and white halves and a dot of each in between. A U.S. Army veteran with service in Asia and Europe, she holds degrees from Yale, Harvard, and MIT. Born in Brazil, Sah moved to the US when he was 16. Sounds True is a multimedia publishing company founded in 1985 by Tami Simon, with the mission of disseminating spiritual wisdom. They also have the resilience needed to cope with stressful life events such as divorce, health crises, and academic failure, and even combat traum… There’s a wisdom element, too. This is an excerpt from a recent Facebook Live that Erin hosted. The active Yang side self-compassion —how to see the truth of a situation with courage, protect yourself, and stand strong with others in the face of hostility or harm. Practice: Yin and Yang Supportive Touch Practice: Yin Self-Compassion Break Practice: Soften-Soothe-Allow. Because, again, if we remember that the reason we do it, the reason maybe if you’ve ever been hard on yourself, is because you want to be safe and you want to be happy. What we know—actually you probably know this from positive psychology, is that negative emotions tend to narrow our focus. We stand together with our brothers and sisters in strength. Traditional gender roles allow women to be yin, but if a woman is too yang — if she gets angry or fierce — people get scared and often insulting. Kristin Neff, PhD, is an associate professor at the University of Texas, Austin, and is the author of Self-Compassion (Morrow, 2011). Cultivating Kindness and Strength in the Face of Difficulty: Yin and Yang of Self-Compassion. Readers may know there are three basic components of self-compassion: And so these three components of kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness take a different form, they feel different, and they have a different flavor depending on what form the self-compassion is taking. And then, mindfulness, in this case, is vision. In this interview, Tami Simon and Kristin talk about the vital distinction between self-esteem and self-compassion, three pillars of self-compassion, ‘self-compassion breaks,’ and the importance of recognizing our common humanity during difficulties that feel unique and isolating. Widen the Window: Training Your Brain and Body to Thrive During Stress and Recover from Trauma. (64 minutes), Dr. Kristin Neff is a professor of human development and culture at the University of Texas and a practitioner of Buddhist meditation. Participants in this workshop will learn to know and practice the yin and yang of self-compassion and acquire new skills to empower themselves and the world with more compassion. Yin and yang (or yin-yang) is a complex relational concept in Chinese culture that has developed over thousands of years. Your email address will not be published. If you care about yourself and you don’t want to suffer, you’re going to want to make needed changes. The yin is the dark energy; it’s supposed to be more feminine, more of a passive energy, more the “being with.” Let me give an example of this last domain. After logging in you can close it and return to this page. The company is based in Louisville, Colorado, near Boulder, Colorado. Kristin explains that self-compassion is not some form of self-indulgence or excuse for bad behavior; indeed, there are actually various forms of self-compassion that arise in different situations. Daily Meditations with Matthew Fox is made possible through the generosity of donors. BREAK. The Yin and Yang of Self-Compassion Misgivings about Self-Compassion Self-Compassion Research Gestures of Yin and Yang Self-Compassion. That’s a caring, understanding, compassionate approach. Maybe I can try this different next time and that would lead to a better effect.” It’s actually much more informational to give wise encouragement as opposed to the belittling name-calling. Together, yin and yang self-compassion create a powerful force for emotional resilience and wellbeing, allowing us to care for ourselves, for others, and for our world in a wholehearted and sustainable way. True compassion requires an even balance of both yin and yang. It involves generating kindness toward ourselves as imperfect humans … It would appear that the goal on the cultural and religious left is to find a way to link Judge Amy Coney Barrett to all of that strange charismatic Christian stuff like healing and speaking on tongues while avoiding anti-dogma language that would raise warning flags for Sunday-morning-Mass Catholic In the Jewish tradition, compassion is recognized as “the secret name for God.”  One might say that Jesus let the secret out of the bag when he teaches: “Be you compassionate as your Creator in heaven is compassionate.”  (Lk 6: 36). Matthew Fox, PhD, author, theologian, and activist priest, has been calling people of spirit and conscience into the Creation Spirituality lineage for over 50 years. Yang self-compassion entails motivating, protecting, and providing for ourselves and our needs. With common humanity, we recognize that it’s a balanced way; in other words, we don’t just give to ourselves, and we don’t subordinate our needs to those of others, but we’re balanced. November 9, 2018. You’re going to want to reach your goals. For instance, when self-compassion is aimed at protecting ourselves, it feels like fierce, empowered clarity. Just like, “You’re bad. Passion for Creation: The Earth-Honoring Spirituality of Meister Eckhart, Please consider making a tax-deductible donation. For instance, when self-compassion is aimed at protecting ourselves, it feels like fierce, empowered clarity. the senior was yang, the junior was ying who should be controlled. Tami and Sah also discuss: the importance of reclaiming beauty, playfulness, and lightheartedness on the spiritual path; what it means to be a “joy activist”; Sah’s journey to becoming a spiritual teacher; the innate goodness within each one of us; forgiving the past; the evolution of Indian teachings in the West; the “spiritually sassy” glossary of terms; and much more. Try it next time you feel self-critical. Gently touching your body can shift your state of mind—fast! Sah D’Simone is a spiritual guide, meditation teacher, transformational speaker, and bestselling author. Please consider making a tax-deductible donation, Sempre bello leggere le meditazioni quotidiani di Mattew. The concept of yin and yang is a perfect metaphor for the energies of self-compassion. Feels very fulfilling and satisfying their child, we want that for their child, we feel fulfilled, like. 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